Ability Mom 👩🏻🦯 @AbilityMom
UNAPOLOGETICALLY BLIND 👩🏻🦯 MAKE UP & FASHION BOSS💋 linktr.ee/AbilityMomOf2V… Joined May 2011-
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Today We Celebrate International Day of Persons With Disabilities. Let’s share our pride in all of whom we are and how far we’ve come in this imperfectly perfect journey we LIVE. Keep Shining FAM! 👩🏻🦯 #InternationalDayOfPersonsWithDisabilities #Disabled #Blind #Disability
HAPPY NATIONAL WHITE CANE SAFETY DAY 👩🏻🦯 #TikTok #Blind #WhiteCaneSafetyDay tiktok.com/t/ZT8hr3nkV/
Twitter definitely found a way to be talked about… 😂 #XTwitter #AbilityMom
The @barbiethemovie sparked the teenager younger me. Who remembers Princess Diaries? I loved this Movie! I was sighted when it came out. I bet Anne Hathaway is just as beautiful today as I remember her in 2001! 👩🏻🦯#BlindMom #AbilityMom #PrincessDiaries #AnneHathaway
Did you know 1 disabled child in the United States is murdered by their caregiver a week… That’s 1 too many! 👩🏻🦯 #Disabled #Blind #Parents #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8863cKe/
BLIND GIRL UNBOXES WHEELCHAIR @Barbie 👩🏻🦯 #Barbie #BarbieMovie #Blind #Disabled #WheelChair #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8829UCt/
What do you do when you’re facing anxiety? A good walk always helps me. 👩🏻🦯 #Blind #Disabled #Anxiety #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8R9P6yS/
Blind girl walk of shame 🙄#Blind #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8R5uY8r/
Family tore up these freezer dried skittles & gummy nerd clusters! I need to try the chocolate now. #Candy #Snack #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8RBsJ3K/
Your feelings are valid too! 👩🏻🦯 #BlindMom #AbilityMom #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8Rjs6kB/
The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are… 👩🏻🦯 Happy Disability Pride Month #Blind #Disability #Disabled #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8R133FP/
Since losing sight, i’m sensitive to smells. I think the smell of flowers stink. They burn my nose hair & make me sneeze but.. Fried chicken, Ham, Onion, Pasta, Pizza… They hits right.. Are you sensitive to smells? #Blind #Disabled #AbilityMom instagram.com/p/CupTRlXxe_D/…
SOFT @Oreo ?! That’s genius! #AbilityMom #Oreo #Snack #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8dgmQC6/
Meet me on my yacht 👩🏻🦯 #Blind #AbilityMom #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8dbMALA/
The raw reality of being disabled is waking up some days not feeling well but pushing through to get shit done. Reminder: You’re a badass today if you take a break and you’re a badass tomorrow if you don’t take a break! #AbilityMom #Disabled #Disability #Blind
Yellow Lenses In Aviator Style Sunglasses are the SUMMER TREND 👩🏻🦯 #Blind #Sunglasses #Aviator #TikTokShop #BlindGirl #AbilityMom #Style #Modern #Shades #Trend #Sponsored #Fashion #Summer #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8dmjnSD/
I’m blind and the nastiest place to get a Sighted guide is in the gym. I can’t stand sweat on my skin. I sure enough don’t want to touch other people sweat. 👩🏻🦯 #Blind #Gym #WorkOut #BlindMom #AbilityMom #BlindGirl #Blindness #Disabled #Disability #TikTok tiktok.com/t/ZT8da1J3q/
Juan Alcazar 🎥👨.. @juan_c_alcazar
2K Followers 1K Following Content creator/filmmaker. I’ve been blind for over ten years. I also do Quality Control for Audio Description, and accessibility consulting .Molly Burke @MollyBOfficial
71K Followers 399 Following Speaker, Digital Creator, Author, and Advocate. I also happen to be blind! and have a really cute guide dog! 👀🦮 YT/IG/FB/TikTok: @mollyburkeofficial LA 🌴Jurgen 👨🦯 @NotJstABlindGuy
3K Followers 4K Following blind content creator, public speaker, disability advocate, diversity champion and outspoken Scotsman. he/himRNIB @RNIB
54K Followers 3K Following We’re the Royal National Institute of Blind People. Header photo: two young people laugh as they play video games.The Blinkmeister 🏺.. @AuroraNebulosa
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1K Followers 4K Following What makes me special is I can speak another language is russian. I am also blind. I love music. I am a music wiz I can tell you just about any song.Claire Sisk @canseecantsee
2K Followers 154 Following 👩🦯Disability Advocate👩🦯 👀Blind Content Creator👀 🗣️Public Speaker🗣️ 🎤Radio Presenter🎤 📍London/Herts UK📍 [email protected]Knights of The Braill.. @brailleknights
854 Followers 347 Following We advocate for and produce Accessible game materials. We run D&D/TTRPG groups for blind and visually impaired people via Discord https://t.co/PQSIalMyGRChad Michael Bouton @UnsytedRadio
2K Followers 5K Following Credited accessibility consultant for gaming, Founder & Owner of Unsyted LLC, disabled author, and host of The Unsyted Radio.That Blind Chick #Rea.. @ThatBlindChick6
1K Followers 898 Following I’m just a blind girl trying to make it in a cited world. I say what I want. I keep it real. I am me and that’s all I can be. I🖤@6lack #1FanUtahCouncil_Blind @UCBInfo
2K Followers 5K Following To provide for the free exchange of ideas,opinions, and information relative to matters of concern to the Blind and Visually Impaired Community.Brian Moore also @bmo.. @bmoore123
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10K Followers 8K Following #BlindNewWorld: empowering the #blind and #VisuallyImpaired community while demystifying #blindness and breaking down barriers to #inclusion.BlindAbilities @BlindAbilities
9K Followers 4K Following @BlindAbilities: When we share each others visions we can begin to bridge the gap between the limited expectations and realities of Blind Abilities.Audio Description Tra.. @ADRetreats
1K Followers 2K Following Training in all aspects of Audio Description with blind and sighted professionals in collaborative classes #AudioDescription #Blind #ADTraining #AccessibilityPerkins School for th.. @PerkinsVision
10K Followers 2K Following Global education leader for kids with complex disabilities & #VisualImpairments. We demand #DisabilityInclusion. We believe every child can learn.Blind Sanity @BlindSanityPod
3K Followers 4K Following A website for the blind and low vision community; providing insights and support to make life easier and more enjoyable. E-Mail at [email protected]Dave Steele The Blind.. @TheBlindPoetX
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60 Followers 61 FollowingMatthew @Demonoffroad
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219 Followers 101 Following Open minded and open to talk about anythingFrank @dowgpownd
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31 Followers 608 FollowingRyan Knight @kni86718389
209 Followers 941 FollowingJuan Alcazar 🎥👨.. @juan_c_alcazar
2K Followers 1K Following Content creator/filmmaker. I’ve been blind for over ten years. I also do Quality Control for Audio Description, and accessibility consulting .Dr Amy Kavanagh @BlondeHistorian
58K Followers 6K Following Blind activist, freelancer, gamer & history PhD. Guided by @GuideDogAva She/her #JustAskDontGrabMolly Burke @MollyBOfficial
71K Followers 399 Following Speaker, Digital Creator, Author, and Advocate. I also happen to be blind! and have a really cute guide dog! 👀🦮 YT/IG/FB/TikTok: @mollyburkeofficial LA 🌴Siobhan Meade @BlindGirlVlogs
4K Followers 3K Following Blind Journalist, YouTube creator, hate crime speaker, passionate about disability awareness. Contact me: [email protected]Jurgen 👨🦯 @NotJstABlindGuy
3K Followers 4K Following blind content creator, public speaker, disability advocate, diversity champion and outspoken Scotsman. he/himRNIB @RNIB
54K Followers 3K Following We’re the Royal National Institute of Blind People. Header photo: two young people laugh as they play video games.Connor Scott-Gardner @ConnorScottG
12K Followers 2K Following Blind campaigner and disability rights activist. Particularly interested in digital accessibility. @CSInclusion owner and @DSUTweets Co-Founder. 🏳️⚧️Helena @Helena227502545
1K Followers 4K Following What makes me special is I can speak another language is russian. I am also blind. I love music. I am a music wiz I can tell you just about any song.IllegallySighted @BGFH79
2K Followers 2K Following Hello, my name is Jesse Anderson, aka IllegallySighted on many areas of the Internet. I am a technology, gaming, and XR accessibility advocate & consultant.Holly @lifeofablindgrl
6K Followers 1K Following Award-winning disability blogger and freelance writer. Social Media Officer @RNIB. Usually chatting all things accessibility. She/her.Knights of The Braill.. @brailleknights
854 Followers 347 Following We advocate for and produce Accessible game materials. We run D&D/TTRPG groups for blind and visually impaired people via Discord https://t.co/PQSIalMyGRSightlessKombat post .. @sightlessKombat
5K Followers 6K Following Sightless/Kombat/SK. Gamer without sight, award winning, multi-credited accessibility consultant and content creator. Also certified audio describer! He/himThat Blind Chick #Rea.. @ThatBlindChick6
1K Followers 898 Following I’m just a blind girl trying to make it in a cited world. I say what I want. I keep it real. I am me and that’s all I can be. I🖤@6lack #1FanDavid Woodbridge @dwoodbridge
3K Followers 2K Following Apple and other accessible tech user. Opinions are my own..UtahCouncil_Blind @UCBInfo
2K Followers 5K Following To provide for the free exchange of ideas,opinions, and information relative to matters of concern to the Blind and Visually Impaired Community.Freedom Scientific @FreedomSci
9K Followers 2K Following Freedom Scientific is the largest worldwide manufacturer of assistive technology products for those who are #blind or have #lowvision. #A11YCarys @blindandb0ujee
4K Followers 2K Following An acquired taste. Guide dog owner. Runner. Lazy river enthusiast. Horny for #a11y. Doing stuff at @incllewsion 📧 [email protected].Brian Moore also @bmo.. @bmoore123
2K Followers 2K Following Single blind parent. Accessibility nerd! Tweet about related things, single parenting, computer nerd things, also @[email protected]Steve Saylor @stevesaylor
23K Followers 2K Following BLIND GAMER | Creator/Host | Avail. for Accessibility Consulting | @Twitch Ambassador | #AMDRedTeam | @thegameawards FUTURE CLASS 2020 | [email protected]BlindPress @BlindPress
1K Followers 715 Following Blind content creator on Yt, Tt Insta and OF model check out #blindnotbroken and streamer on Twitch and YouTube! #Justchatting #Gaming #BfgcAssistive Technology .. @AssistiveTech2
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851 Followers 966 Following I’m Lance! I chat it up with blind + disabled game changers. Click here for EPISODES + MERCH👇WhiteStickFest @WhiteStickFest
545 Followers 2K Following WhiteStickFest 2023 coming October 15th with blind, low-vision & sighted artists from around the globe 🎵🌏 Presented by @Platinumcre8iveJoJo🦮 @EncoreGoldador
14 Followers 45 Following Guide dog for @Maura_Loberg. Black lab/golden retriever cross. I love bones, walks, fetch and sleeping. Please ignore me when I'm in harness.mattdegruchyvision @MDVision20
22 Followers 65 Following blindness & Disability advocate - Keynote speaker - entrepreneurMonica Pruitt @BendyBlindBlond
88 Followers 209 Following DeafBlind sharing my story & spreading awareness about #UsherSyndromeClinique @Clinique
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651K Followers 722 Following Beauty obsessed. Rule breaker. Image maker.NYX Pro Makeup US @NYXCosmetics
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193 Followers 299 Following Hello! my name is Adel Spence. I am 19 years old, and I am blind. I like messing around with tech and experimenting with Ai technology.Blind Temple @BlindTemple
4K Followers 4K Following Blind/One eyed, Helps w/blind accessibility. As seen on Dragon+, He/Him. End stage kidney disease. Golden TTRPGifs winner. Old guy gamer. Art by SpOoKy777Priscilla Block @priscillablock
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226K Followers 8 Following The official account for TikTok support! Here to help 7 days a week, 8am - 5pm PST 🤝TikTok Creators @tiktokcreators
289K Followers 333 Following The official account for @tiktok_us creators who inspire creativity and bring joy ✨ For account support, DM @tiktoksupportAnita Of Sightless Li.. @SightlessLiving
457 Followers 308 Following Totally Blind Woman, Creative, Advocate, Friendly, Witty, Tech Lover, Content Creator, & Out-Of-The-Box Thinker! 😎👋🏽Blind Sanity @BlindSanityPod
3K Followers 4K Following A website for the blind and low vision community; providing insights and support to make life easier and more enjoyable. E-Mail at [email protected]Disabled_Eliza @DisabledEliza
18K Followers 158 Following 👀Stare at the hair not the chair💕 👩🏼🦽Disabled🦈Shark Enthusiast🌈Queer 📍U.K. 💌[email protected]Lela @Lela70899526
1K Followers 5K Following I’m a totally blind woman who loves to support others and volunteer for charities. Hobbies include horse riding, socialising and playing games on my iPhone.Bryn @Just_Bryn_
679 Followers 1K Following Used to be @Masonaverse. Main is @ItsBrynify. I love programming, music, hanging out with friends. Blind. Want to know more? Just ask. I don’t bite!yasir👨🦯 @yasir_rp
126 Followers 468 Following A #blind husband, dad, human being and tech obsessed. #retinitispigmentosa #cureblindness #canada #pakistan #uae #bekind #twinsJodi Owen @JLO_1977
305 Followers 2K Following Chamberlain Grad 🎓 Nursing Educator Mother of Two Crazies 💛Olivier Nourry @OlivierNourry
2K Followers 1K Following Web accessibility veteran by day, games accessibility padawan by night. My tweets are mine, not yours. Chaotic good.Music Lover 700 @700Music
1K Followers 2K Following Welcome to my Twitter page. I’m a blind person who enjoys getting to know people and loves having fun.Good news everybody, I went to see the Barbie movie and made it through without feeling as if my masculinity was being attacked and diminished by the matriarchy! #BarbieBox #BarbieFilm
I completely forgot my annual tradition! it’s disability pride month - disabled people link your wishlists, petitions, articles, social media, websites in this thread- anything you’d like attention bringing to! let’s see if we can spread some disabled joy 🤩 💓
Going blind started a chain of events that led me to the woman & job I love! #DisabilityPrideMonth
Excited for the start of disability pride month. #DisabilityPride #DisabilityPrideMonth
I have a basket of fresh tomatoes, salt, pepper and other spices, and some ground beef. I think I'm going to make some spaghetti sauce from scratch tonight.
@m2mtweets @AbilityMom, @EveKissi @AutismMuMz @DownSyndromeMom @SpecialMothers1 @YAmedofu mothers in @DIKN_MWF @Ignite4Autism @ and all women who spread love, care and support for children and adults who are differently abled, we say Ayeekooo! Well done!
Ladies, when in doubt, solve an arguement with titties and nachos. #Empowered
Stream today is cancelled. I've not been feeling great since Sunday and today is just a bit worse. I'm going back to the doctor Monday. Maybe I'll figure this out.
Come join me for #Beattheblindgirl on #twitch tonight! #Blindnotbroken #Disabledandhot #streamer #Femalestreamer #supportsmallstreamers #40fam
So I am lucky enough to be a beta tester on a new AI tool for our community. That honestly is going to be a game changer. Just used it on a Instagram photo within the platform and I am literally in tears. First time I’ve enjoyed a post since I went blind
We’re BLIND & reaching for STARS! We are going for @Sephora squad! Help me catch that shooting star & share what you admire about me & the content I create. We need a blind girl on this list ! ❤️ #SephoraSquad #Blind #BlindGirl #BlindMakeUp #MakeUp sephorasquad.com/leave_testimon…
A group of lads laughing at me because I couldn’t find where the trolly bay was at Sainsburys. It reminded me why I like to stay at home most of the time these days in the comfort of my 4 walls with my dog for company because people can be d*cks.
It's a new blog post from me! @AbilityMom @asfvision @SassyWyatt @superblindman @canseecantsee @lifeofablindgrl @lucyedwards @MollyBOfficial @myblurredworld @petegustin @ross_minor @Shaysters @TheBlindLifesam are mentioned here. bookwolftheblind.com/blindness-fact…
I shared on stream that I was going to the doctor yesterday. That went well, but I started some meds that have me not feeling well today. It should pass in a week or less, but I definitely don't feel up to streaming today.
Less than 10% of blind people can read and use Braille. We want to ensure that Braille literacy starts early for blind and low-vision children. Our #NFBBELL Academy, a summer program, empowers blind youth with literacy and self-confidence.
I am not feeling good today, so I'm cancelling stream. Also hoping I can get my internet issues sorted before Thursdays stream, but we shall see. 💜
Ok.. no one be mad. I'm leaving a bunch of Discord servers so I can try to actually check the ones I'd like to be a part of more often... it is NOTHING personal. My list has gotten way out of hand....
Able bodied people who think they're allies but then proceed to scream over and argue with disabled people about our own opinions on our own issues are a problem we don't talk about enough You're not standing up for us and being the ally you think you are