Saw a post about how the jokes about “bi means attracted to all women and .000001 percent of men” or “ugh I want to date a girl but I’m stuck with my stinky gross boyfriend” are the tenderqueer versions of the boomer “I hate my wife” jokes: my discomfort has been validated
I’m a femme-inflected non-binary person who most people read as a cis woman, and my anchor partner is a cis man. I don’t want anything to do with the whole “uwu I’m sorry I’m a bad queer because I’m dating a stinky man plz don’t take away my bi card 🥺🥺🥺”
@FlyingTanager Those are bad jokes and that term that mocks sensitivity and naiveté with a play on genderqueer is also bad (puriteen is better)
@FlyingTanager I haaaate these jokes. My cis partner is a sweet, kind, lovely human and not at all gross. I VASTLY prefer the "bisexual and emotional support golden retriever gamer bf" jokes.
@FlyingTanager @mstar1014 I think most of it stems from internalized biphobia and then biphobia from other queer folx. But! I also rarely see this take anymore, I feel like it blew up on tumblr several years ago but I see more ppl criticizing it than actually saying it now especially offline.
@FlyingTanager I swear to the Gods if I'm ever dating a woman or femme person, and they wrote that? I would be questioning things cause I'm sick of those "jokes".
@FlyingTanager It's damaging imo to imply that in order to truly be bi you have a specific preference when being bi is a spectrum. And it's valid to prefer having a queer partner; it's a way my partner and I relate better than past straight partners! Doesn't mean straight partners are bad.
@FlyingTanager I mean , sure if you're single have away at it, but if you have a partner, that's not very nice to say in front of them (or behind their back)