Satan got Adam and Eve to focus on one fruit when God had given them a whole garden. That's how he works. He gets you to focus on that one thing you don't have. Instead of all the blessings you do have. Trust that God knows what you need, and he will supply it when you need it.
Whatever you do, pray for the ability to see your own sins, your own hypocrisy, and your own shortcomings. Never get so carried away pointing fingers that you forget you, too, fall short.
When you select a partner, whether you realize it or not, you're choosing a whole lifestyle and not just the person. You're choosing their sleep schedule. You're choosing their money habits, you're choosing their stress levels, their family drama, their levels of cleanliness, their work ethic, their coping mechanisms, all of these things will be a baseline of your daily life. If that normal is doom scrolling till 2:00 a.m., avoiding all conflict, impulse spending and never exercising, guess what, they're signing up to live in that ecosystem. Love does not cancel out people's flaws. In fact, love just makes you tolerate them for longer. Most people obsess over do we have romantic chemistry? They completely skip "Can I live with this person's version of a tuesday for the next 10 years?" The hard truth is you don't fix somebody's lifestyle from the inside while either accept the package as they are or you walk away.
Imagine a woman grabbing you, sitting you down, looking you in the eyes and telling you,
“We are gonna work this out, I’m not going anywhere, I love you.”