Andrew Neel @andrewneel

I've been told I have good taste and a good eye. Work: tech x creative North Carolina 🇺🇸 Joined July 2010

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

15 hours ago

@DudespostingWs Use a UV light instead. It’ll charge anything that’s glow-in-the-dark faster and brighter than a normal light

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

16 hours ago

@joshuacirjak I’ll take one!

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There's your life. There's your partner's life. And then there's a third thing—this separate entity called your relationship. And that third thing? It can thrive even when the individuals inside it are struggling. I think about this when women message me saying, "I wish I had a @jonwu_ in my life." They see someone supportive, someone who gets on stage and hypes me up, someone who shows up for my ideas with his whole chest. That's real. But here's what you don't see: we're both incredibly imperfect people. We met when we were both living in apartments that could charitably be called "character-building." Jon's East Williamsburg place was a sunless cave with mold in the walls. We weren't two polished people who found each other at the top of our games. We were two messy humans who decided to build something together anyway. When Jon was miserable at his job, I didn't start looking for the exit. But I also didn't try to control his life. My job wasn't to fix his career—it was to be there when he finally figured out what he needed to do. You want to support your partner in their own life, but you still want them to be agentic over it. That's the dance of the third thing. I never once asked myself if Jon was successful enough or happy enough or moving fast enough. I already knew the answer to the only question that mattered: we could build something beautiful together. I don't think either Jon or I could have achieved what we've achieved without each other. SheFi is monetized because he helped me push through my fear of rejection. He makes decks, thinks through strategy, shows up in a thousand ways that have nothing to do with whether he loved his job in 2021. And I've supported him through career pivots and dark seasons and all the messy middle nobody posts about. When you have 10,000 people on Hinge ready to take you on a date, you don't have a lead problem. You have a qualification problem. And it's easy to start screening for the wrong things—does he love his job, does he have it figured out, is he at his best right now? Here’s the only filter I trust: is this person willing to commit to building something as hard as I am? It has to be mutual. If you're both committed to the third thing, it'll work. If either of you is constantly scanning for the exit, it won't. Jon and I have had seasons where one of us was thriving and the other was drowning. We've had exactly zero seasons where we were both simultaneously at our best. And still—the third thing held. The third thing grew. The third thing became a life neither of us could have built alone. The third thing is where the magic happens. But you have to tend to it, even when the individuals inside it are imperfect. Especially then.

Ezydu @ezradulis

4 days ago

"Call Her Daddy" host Alex Cooper & actress Sophia Bush: if a woman is questioning whether she can do better than her current husband, "the answer is always yes." "This idea that it's too late or you're too old, or who are you to want more, that's patriarchy. That is crazy."

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

I completely understand your perspective, and he absolutely broke the trust and covenant of their marriage with his infidelity. That is truly heartbreaking, selfish of him, and incredibly painful to experience for her. She didn’t have to stay, and the work doesn’t have to fall on her. She chose to stay and carry the burden, even when she didn’t have to and even though he was undeserving of it. And she likely did it because she’s experienced that same kind of love and sacrifice from Jesus, and she chose to love her husband in the same way: “We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

As I said before, marriage is a choice. Duty is not a choice, it’s an outside force that compels you, not an internal one. So yes, marriage should not feel like a duty, but a decision to love your spouse each and every day. I never said spouses are obligated to or even should always stay with their spouses when there’s infidelity. But if someone chooses to, like in the Lentz’s case, I respect their decision. And love involves putting someone else’s needs, interests, and well being before your own. That’s the definition of sacrifice.

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

@DirtySweetStyle @emilykmay I commend y’all, because that’s exactly what you should do! We protect and put boundaries around things that are valuable to us, and that should especially be true when it comes to marriage.

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

You’re right, there is no “requirement”, it’s a choice (see other tweet). Lentz’s wife made a conscious choice to stay with her husband. And he’s taken preventative steps to honor her decision and sacrifice (I would sure hope so). I respect their decisions, and I respect that you’d do things differently. x.com/andrewneel/sta…

Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

@emilykmay It’s a choice that any spouse who finds themself in that position has to make, hopefully with support from wise friends and family. You’ve made your choice clear, but that doesn’t necessarily have to be everyone’s when it comes to addictions. Patterns of physical harm to you or

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

@WhySheEight @emilykmay I disagree. The whole reason I responded to the OP was because I was considering what my response would be if I was in this situation with my wife recovering. I intentionally used non-gendered terms in my "psychoanalysis" because this obviously goes both ways. Everyone sins.

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

It’s a choice that any spouse who finds themself in that position has to make, hopefully with support from wise friends and family. You’ve made your choice clear, but that doesn’t necessarily have to be everyone’s when it comes to addictions. Patterns of physical harm to you or others isn’t always a part of addictions, but it can be, and does change the circumstances substantially. You’re right that anyone who chooses to stand by their spouse and support them through their recovery is choosing to help them carry that burden. It’s definitely a cost, but it’s also a choice, just like love, hope, and marriage are.

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

@emilykmay I don’t think any rational person would want their spouse to have any kind of addiction

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

4 days ago

@9th Incredible. Congrats y’all!

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

5 days ago

@docBAGcuddy It’s not even a little bit AI

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

5 days ago

@josh_a_scott @howertonjosh I see a lot of mudslinging in the comments, but not a lot of substance for why his comments are wrong or incorrect. Can you elaborate? He didn’t instruct people to vote a certain direction and his advice could be interpreted by left or right to vote in that direction.

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

7 days ago

@RosaneBonoro @EmmanuelMacron This is AI. Tons of AI artifacts and the scale of the people at the top is way off, they shouldn’t be that big (see attached image of the top for actual scale)

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

7 days ago

@its_xlab @alexisohanian Watched it three times without sound before seeing this comment and turning it on 🙃

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Andrew Neel @andrewneel

a week ago

@LinusEkenstam @DaveShapi "it’s litterally the epitome of america, fake it until you make it. be loud in a room, the intimidate others" Really disappointing to hear this take from you, Linus. You're better than this.