I really don't want to get into this debate but Mukoma I think people are upset because your father is ailing and alone, and at his age he probably needs peace of mind. You have the tools to write about your pain, but maybe now is not the right time? Trauma can manifest anytime, I get that, but you also need to process it. That is the hardest part. Then, when you figure it out, when you join the dots, you will write about it in a way that humanises both you and your dad. You might discover he had childhood traumas of his own.
I really don't want to get into this debate but Mukoma I think people are upset because your father is ailing and alone, and at his age he probably needs peace of mind. You have the tools to write about your pain, but maybe now is not the right time? Trauma can manifest anytime, I get that, but you also need to process it. That is the hardest part. Then, when you figure it out, when you join the dots, you will write about it in a way that humanises both you and your dad. You might discover he had childhood traumas of his own.
@RasnaWarah How do you humanize an abuser? An abuser is an abuser, whether sickly or dying! They are abuser. Stop being a male sympathizer! It doesn’t look good on you.
@RasnaWarah ….I haven’t followed the story to the “T” but all I want to say is “hold it right there” we need to stop 🛑 absolving abusers&trying to shame victims ..right now it’s like u short of saying d son is unkind for not reconciling with his dad…nope no. Dad is reaping what he sowed!
@RasnaWarah I really don’t want to get into this debate…. Then goes ahead to, anyway and also give unsolicited advice. Maybe leave people alone? He will come along at his time. This is his own journey. He will forgive his dad(maybe) but at this time, he is hurting.
@RasnaWarah Who are you to tell a child how to feel about their parents? You want to say you care more for Ngugi than his child? #Misplaced #PrioritiesBottomsUp
@RasnaWarah 'I don't want to get into this debate' but still goes ahead to give UNSOLICITED advice.. 🚮
@RasnaWarah No,they are upset because of the kenyan culture of silence on issues of toxic masculinity and domestic violence. They are even more upset because a man is not showing "solidarity" to their tool of control. How dare he expose them & show Support to women? That is what annoys them
@RasnaWarah Observe all the people supporting @MukomaWaNgugi . There's a pattern.
@RasnaWarah Karma is a B. The perpetrator did his acts when the son was vulnerable and could do nothing, now what goes around comes around, the father is vulnerable and he can do nothing. THAT'S LIFE 😒