✩₊˚.⋆Master Vic✩‧₊˚ @VictoriaNightin

Ugh i hate when that happens. I have had that happen before, I've been rebuilding after being away for a couple of years too, but I'm not new to this community at all, ive been around since 2015 Sometbing i wish more people understood is that just because someone is rebuilding doesn't mean they don't know what the fuck they're doing. 😂

I'm going to say something I've been sitting on for a while... Findom has gotten so fucking toxic over the last few months. Big creators trying to dim the light of smaller creators. Younger "Dominants" bullying and attacking people who have been in this community longer than they've even been adults. Some who have been in the community longer than they've been alive. ANND don't even get me fucking started on people deliberately sabotaging another Dominant's bag. Competition is one thing. heck, we aren't always going to agree and we sure as hell arent all going to like each other. But deliberately trying to hurt another person's opportunities because you feel threatened by them? That's fucking disgusting and shows how insecure you are. News flash! Theres room for more than one Dominant to shine. I've unfortunstely watched too many good people walk away from this community because of behavior that should have never been normalized in the first place. Just worry about your own fucking bag before you start trying to fuck with somebody else's.

@Queen_Sirenn Always!!!

Oh okay, now I get what you're saying, and I agree that nobody is obligated to interact with someone they don't fuck with. 😂 Block, mute, ignore, whatever works for you. But where we see things differently is I don't view community as just an added bonus. I've been around this space for years, and the community aspect has always been a huge part of this community. Hence why I built my own server to help bring more community mentality to this space. BUT nobody has to be friends or interact with everyone. I just don't want us to get to a point where “everyone is here for themselves” becomes an excuse for people to stop supporting each other or, worse, start actively working against each other. Which is what im seeing happening right now. Where im getting at is you can mind your own business without making someone else's life harder.

@ObeyMadameJ Exactly!!!

@punkblackcat1 I have NEVER seen it this bad. Okay yeah you might get a couple of people like that here and there.. but eventually they just either grew up or left altogether but now its so normalized I see it happening nearly all the time.

Unfortunately greed and jealousy have became a trend as to what this community is about. Hence why most people dont like Financial Dominants. Especially when people constantly see us tearing each other down and treating everything like a competition, it's not hard to see why they feel that way.

Nobody said y'all have to be friends. 😂 But “that's just the reality” isn't an excuse for deliberately fucking with people.I've been around this community for YEEARS and community has always been a huge part of this space. The mentality of “everyone is here for themselves” is exactly what I think is wrong with it lately. You don't have to be friends with everyone. Heck, You don't even have to like everyone you come across, regardless of all of that you can still support each other, respect each other's space all without actively work against each other. This whole “everybody is on their own” mentality is relatively new to me, and honestly, I don't think we should be normalizing it. There is a thing where you can mind your own business without making someone else's life harder.

@MistressShani This is my concern, like I would love to experiment with any desk or other techdom stuff.

Financial submission isn't about proving your income. It's about demonstrating your priorities. Those are two very different things.

The best mentors don't create dependence. They help people become more thoughtful, more capable, and more confident over time.

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Temptation's Accord @temptationaccrd

4 days ago

Meet our council! @VictoriaNightin is the owner and visionary behind our mission. @MissAndieRaye focuses behind the scenes, working on social media, advertising, and analysis. @MrScot76 heads up engagement, fostering some very 🔥🔥 conversations and events.

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@MissAndieRaye @MrScot76 I almost forgot about that! Honestly I swear some of these people who have this mentality are going to end up in legal trouble due to pure carelessness.

“SSC is outdated because the word ‘safe’ is too broad.”🤣🤣🤣 Are yall fucking serious? Lol Safe was never supposed to mean nothing could possibly go wrong. It means you give a damn about safety when you're engaging in BDSM. Apparently we’ve reached the point where “safe” is too broad, but somehow throwing out the entire concept of prioritizing safety is supposed to be the way to go. Now yall are doing entirely waaaaay too much.

@TeaGothgoddess Exactly! You'd be surprised the crazy things ive seen. A few months ago I saw someone say ssc is outdated because its discriminatory....

@sensual_xsplash Those so called "Dominants" if you can even call them that... all they do is take. They do not know the true value of ownership and dynamics.

Hot take maybe, but Findom still requires consent. If I’m playing with a sub and taking his money, that’s our consensual dynamic. Deliberately encouraging him to send me his wife’s paycheck when she hasn’t consented to being part of it? Nah. Having access to someone’s money doesn’t make them a consenting participant in your kink. 😬

Couldn't fucking agree more! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 If buying your submissive a birthday gift makes you question your dominance, your dominance was never as solid as you thought it was. Guess what, I don't need to withhold kindness to prove I'm in control.😏😘

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5 days ago

“A real Domme would NEVER buy her sub something for his birthday.” That might be one of the nastiest takes I’ve seen come out of this community. Some of y’all are so committed to performing cruelty that you genuinely think showing appreciation makes you weak. If a sub has spent

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Y’all aren’t gonna like me for this one, but when the fuck have I cared? 🤣 I’ve seen some absolute wild shit since coming back into the online scene, but apologizing to other Dominants because you accidentally liked a submissive’s comment? That's a new one and honestly it let me wondering what the flying fuck did i just read?🤣🤣 Are we really at the point where liking a sub’s comment requires a public apology? I don’t give a fuck who you interact with, who you like, or who you’re friends with. If a fucking like is enough to threaten your Dominance, maybe the like isn't the problem. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Some of y’all want to be chosen so badly that you forgot you’re supposed to be choosing too. You get a little attention, someone calls you attractive, says they want to submit to you and suddenly you’re ready to claim them. Like seriously? Slow the fuck down. Being wanted feels good Trust me I get it. BUUT... if you’ll accept anyone who gives you attention just because you like how it makes you feel, you’re not being selective, You’re being fucking flattered. A Dominant should be choosing who they give their time, energy and power to just as much as a submissive chooses who they give theirs to. Choose wisely because being chosen is flattering but Choosing wisely is fucking Dominance.😘