As we're talking of that impotent but virtuous and kind middle ground, note the men who claimed to stand with women but changed their tune if we refused to bend and play Axis and Allies with their AGP pals. We haven't wavered from our original position but now we're "extremists."
It went from grooming networks being "an endemic problem even in rural Ireland" to "NotAllAGPs you puritanical ultrameany think of our book deals, aspiring monopolies run by bumbling narc morons that the truth might undermine and entitled porn-sodden misogynists you'll alienate."
But then their obligation was always, proudly, to themselves and their pals. Women are "safe" and "supported" as long as we kindly budge over. And keep on budging. Gratefully and quietly like good allies. See "this woman" the courageous men let down? She's still not playing.