@faeslily One of the most helpful pieces of advice I ever got was to notice your thoughts and ask yourself, "Would I wish this thought on someone I love?" If the answer is no, that thought is a lie and a form of torture none of us need in our lives.
@faeslily I remember telling my therapist how I found it exhausting to take care of myself & had to act as if I was a toddler just to have the patience & care, like I can't do bad things to a kid so it's easy to be compassionate She asked me why I couldn't extend the same compassion to me