@HazelAppleyard_ I’ve noticed they have not been able to bully and take over gay men’s spaces the way they have for lesbians. Is that because men are allowed to have boundaries and say ‘no’ unapologeticly, or that women are socialized to be kind and accepting?
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ We are all allowed to have boundaries and there is no socialising at all that actually works. Men are just wired to be less afraid.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ Men are just biologically more willing to disagree.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ You're saying you think it's environmental/nurture, but biology/nature plays a role too. Boys brains are just built different. Read @hoovlet s book, testosterone, it's so so good!
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ Men are typically less agreeable than women (using the OCEAN/CANOE system). And by dint of size/strength differences, harder to bully.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ I think it’s because we got bullied so hard as kids, it just doesn’t work on us as adults. None of my lesbian peers were treated as harshly for their sexuality as I was in school, and they would be the first to admit that. Now they don’t have the skills to fight back.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ Both. And a difference in male/female sexuality. Male gay culture is more sexually-driven, goal-driven, less gentle and nuanced.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ Well this is how it works in my experience as straight guy TW: Men who won’t date me are Transphobic Me: 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 ok bruh
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ It's because women are not a threat to men the same way it is the other way around. No one takes ftms seriously enough lol
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ No, trans men are showing up in more and more gay male spaces, even at nude events.
@itsmerfornothin @HazelAppleyard_ Trans women found the ultimate formula for cry-bullying. They can be large, intimidating men or weak helpless women, whichever is convenient in the moment.