Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

Writer. My thoughts on healing. Survivors POV. YouTube: Nate_Postlethwait POD: A Little Less Lonely Resources here: https://t.co/pQMe6CHqHz natewrites.com Joined April 2020

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

8 hours ago

When someone recovering from trauma says “I’m tired” it means: My story has been denied. I can’t keep defending myself & try to heal. It means: I’m going as fast as I can & my mind & body aren’t working together the way I’d like. Please rest without apology.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

20 hours ago

What to do with the inner voice that tells you the trauma was your fault? Try to pause. Imagine what that version of you remembers. Take note: Shames purpose is to make you invisible so that kind of trauma never happens again. Proceed with caution and compassion. Sending peace.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

a day ago

Your brain and body will fight growth and healing at every corner. Not because they are against it, but because they’ve created pathways of how to deal with being in pain. They crave familiarity. Slower and smaller changes matter. Slower and smaller choices are brave as hell.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

2 days ago

There is a big difference between someone who hurts another person because they’re hurt, and a hurt person who hurt someone and isn’t sorry.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

2 days ago

When social media is dictating your mood, get off social media. There is connection to much more that offers your nervous system a reset. Books, podcasts, learning, nature, writing, texting an old friend. Don't let this space take what you aren't offering.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

2 days ago

To understand the life of an abuse survivor, is to understand how hard they work to not say or do something that could provoke an unknown response from those around them, while healing from a multitude of things that should have never been said or done to them.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

3 days ago

There is much growth in realizing when they don’t misunderstand you but feel power by you feeling misunderstood.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

3 days ago

When you choose to distort, hide, or deny the truth of a trauma survivor, you’re creating more trauma for them to heal from.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

3 days ago

When a person chooses their dysfunction and denial over a healthy connection, they’re helping you make choices too.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

4 days ago

Stop calling trauma survivors control freaks. There’s nothing freakish about wanting to be in control when you’ve had your innocence taken away, and lived your life in survival mode on other people’s terms. If they’re not trying to control you, let them be.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

4 days ago

Two of the hardest lessons to learn as an adult, when recovering from childhood trauma: 1). It is not on you to get someone to treat you better, when they’re hurting you. This is their responsibility. 2). When to walk away.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

4 days ago

When you try to fill the void of a person who hurt you with new people, you're putting your focus on the wrong person. There's a past version of you who needs you to acknowledge what happened so they're free from it. Replaying that pain with new people is delaying healing.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

5 days ago

When someone is telling you about being estranged from their family, there should not be anything you say to them that sounds like an accusation.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

5 days ago

The vulnerability many hurt people feel is because of how open they are to love. They assume others are too. They don’t think about people like those who’ve hurt them do.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

5 days ago

If there is hidden abuse in a family, they yell “Family is everything “ to keep the victims trapped. Family is the barrier to that persons healing and freedom. The family is closing their walls in to keep their secrets intact. They don’t care who that hurts.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

6 days ago

When you hear someone over-explaining, know one (or all) of these is true: 1). They’ve often had their reality denied. 2). They've been hurt in unpredictable ways & believe it was because they didn't explain better. 3). They've grown up being ignored. Please be patient.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

6 days ago

A big part of healing that goes unspoken is realizing that you are rebuilding a life you want to live versus the life others expected you to accept.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

6 days ago

If you want to preach redemption for perpetrators who were supposedly abusing others because they were also abused, don’t expect the people they’ve hurt to participate. That’s your journey, and has nothing to do with the redemption of the victim. Nothing.

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Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt

7 days ago

When you begin the journey of healing from abuse, you learn that many people have no idea what that kind of pain feels like. Their lives have been consistent, while yours has been anything but. It takes time to adjust, but your normal is normal & it's valid as it is.