tharsh @tharshhh

We're all equal Instagram.com/tharshhh Joined June 2011

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tharsh @tharshhh

a week ago

not my circus, not my monkey.

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Kilo @Panaetious

2 weeks ago

"sorry English is not my first language" I say. As if I make any sense in my first language

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Everyday people prove to me that I only have myself to fall back on. I’d rather be independent af than to rely on people who wouldn’t even make a pinch of the effort or have the same consideration I have for them.

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tia ★ @tiadeeznuts

2 weeks ago

apple pay should cancel the transaction if i look sad during the face ID part

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゙゙ @reallutherr

2 months ago

the only thing i would do behind your back is look at that ass

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ᅟ @Painfulheal

4 months ago

painful truth: u MUST develop a strong opinion of yourself, because if u don't, somebody else will do it for u. and trust me... some ppl will reduce your entire existence to their mood, their jealousy, their insecurity, or one mistake u made three years ago. don't let strangers become the author of your identity. damn...jeeezzz .

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ྀི @hrtindica

5 months ago

the real loser is me each time i say “it’s okay”

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tharsh @tharshhh

6 months ago

I’m gonna stop fighting for a spot I don’t have. It’s exhausting.

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n @onlywithn

6 months ago

how small my place in your heart must have been for you to do that

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thuli tia @itsssthulsss

6 months ago

one of the best tweets i’ve ever read on here. it really stuck with me.

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Anish Moonka @anishmoonka

6 months ago

The research behind this is wild. If you spent years bottling your feelings, huge chunks of your life were probably never recorded in the first place. Every time you push down a feeling, your brain has to choose: save the memory of what's happening, or shut the emotion up. It picks the emotion. In 2000, a team at Stanford tested this. They showed people a surgical film. Half were told to react naturally, the way they would if they were alone. The other half were told to hide their reactions, like someone trying not to look upset at the dinner table. Then everyone took a surprise memory test. The suppressors did worse on every measure, on what they'd seen and on what they'd heard. The same pattern held in two more experiments in the same paper. Brain scans later explained why. Your brain has three jobs when something emotional happens: tag the feeling, put what's happening into words, and save the scene to memory. When you reframe a feeling instead of suppressing it, all three regions fire together as a team. When you suppress, that teamwork falls apart. The memory-saving region goes quiet while the brain fights its own emotional response. And it compounds over time. Suppression keeps cortisol (the stress hormone) high, and cortisol shrinks the part of your brain that saves memories. People under chronic stress can lose 10 to 15 percent of the volume there. Even three weeks of elevated cortisol shrinks the wiring between brain cells by about 20 percent. The damage can partly reverse once the stress drops. But not always. The long-term cost shows up in the dementia data. A Finnish study followed 1,137 older adults for about a decade. People who said they habitually suppressed their emotions had nearly five times the risk of developing dementia. The researchers accounted for genetics, smoking, obesity, and education, and the gap still held. There's a way out. It's called cognitive reappraisal. Instead of shoving a feeling down, you change the story you're telling yourself about what caused it. A tough meeting becomes practice. A short-tempered friend becomes a tired friend. Same event, new frame. And because reappraisal kicks in before the emotion fully fires, your brain never has to fight itself. A 2003 study from Stanford and UC Berkeley found reappraisers ended up with more positive emotion, better relationships, and higher wellbeing. Zero memory cost. So when you say you don't remember half your life, you might be right about that. The part of you that saves the record had other orders the whole time.