Showing Up Isn’t Enough: Learning To Be Better @BeyondShowingUp

Showing up isn’t enough. Writing about love, attachment, boundaries, and learning the difference between effort and capacity United States Joined October 2025

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3 weeks ago

@EllasArchive1 @ChelfcAbby It’s unlikely a marital asset but it’s possible. We’d need more info to know for sure.

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3 weeks ago

@iamFrancesHart @ChelfcAbby If she inherited it while married, the law sometimes see it as a marital asset. That would mean neither loses if the houses are similar in value here. People might not like that and some states wouldn’t do that, just saying it’s possible.

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3 weeks ago

@ChelfcAbby This is dependent on the state and timing. If you inherited it while married, it might be part of the marital assets under the law.

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4 weeks ago

@JanuaryGirl0 @Bunny_ngl No they aren’t. We aren’t married, your bills are not my responsibility.

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a month ago

@dylanpschroeder @martyrdison Can people not read that the top option isn’t a normal ride, but instead a luxury group ride which means a larger vehicle that gets lower gas mileage and provides a better experience for the group?

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a month ago

@yesadok @martyrdison Have you never used Uber? The top cost is not the cost of a single rider. It’s the cost for a group riding in a larger vehicle better suited for the group.

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a month ago

@nikkifaceful @martyrdison The difference in the two costs isn’t the gender of the driver. It’s the size and quality of the vehicle for a group.

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2 months ago

@ShowingEvryScar You got this girl

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6 months ago

@FitWithDrSam The idea that we have to create false mystery by doing these things is wild. Be a good person. You know who does these things often times? Couples that don’t last. Mystery doesn’t build a solid foundation. Communication does.

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7 months ago

@luxemiaa Please find a gentleman, but make sure to remember this when you do. Some men open doors, walk on the outside on the sidewalk, and walk behind the woman when she goes up stairs. Not just to be nice, but because they care about women and especially the woman they are with.

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7 months ago

“All I know is I would have saved myself a lot of suffering if I had just given that bread to the pig.” -Peeta Sometimes a movie quote like this one from The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 2 captures emotion perfectly. Sometimes we think we regret showing up for people because we don’t think they cared in the end and they don’t show up for us. Peeta eventually spends forever with Katniss. This helps prove caring and showing up isn’t the problem. The key is in learning who to show up for.

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7 months ago

@libriscent I’ll never be able to apologize enough for hurting her. I didn’t want to, but I couldn’t be what she deserved. And yes, because I’ve been on the other side of that I hurt knowing what I was doing.

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8 months ago

@anxietymsgs Knowing there isn’t a cure. We learn to manage it. We learn to bring things into our life that give it meaning. And that meaning overcomes the depression so it no longer controls us. But it’s not a cure in the sense the depression is gone. We just deal with it.

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8 months ago

@nickimoraa I don’t think any girl that ended things with me would say I care less. I’ll show my feelings. In fact, I probably overshow, and I’m working on that.

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8 months ago

@Romazehari Can we turn this around? How do women feel when a man does this? If a man cared enough to want to send a paragraph about how he felt, would that be okay?

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8 months ago

Today I spoke with someone who once hurt me deeply. For months I carried anger about what happened. Today I found something else instead. Grace. That’s when I knew I was healing.

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8 months ago

@askaya I don’t think it matters. I’ll make enough to provide if that makes sense. I’ll share the responsibility more (more because I’ll always have some) if it’s dual. As long as our children know we love them and we love each other and work together, I’ll be happy.

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8 months ago

@recovery_your And we need to learn to not judge the trauma of others as worth it or not. What might not have been traumatic to you might have been extremely traumatic to someone else. More empathy, that’s what we need.

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8 months ago

@nickimoraa I'm proud of you. So many of us struggle with dating. It's a story like this that gives us hope. Hope that if we keep working to get better, we can.

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8 months ago

How many people struggle in dating when things end out of nowhere, even right before a first date? One of the things I'm learning to navigate better, but still failing at, is letting people miss out because of their decision to not follow through on a date with me.