Deborah Lara @evolvingwithdeb

Marriage and Family Therapist. Partner Dancer. Nature Lover. Fascinated by human development, maturity, complexity, and wisdom. DeborahLara.com Joined June 2020

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Deborah Lara @evolvingwithdeb

4 years ago

@SlowwCo In ways do you see the internet’s potential to do so?

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4 years ago

@mssocialwelfare @TheShr1nk 🙏♥️

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4 years ago

@TheShr1nk ♥️🙏

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4 years ago

@sheologian @TheShr1nk Yes, good point. I should clarify that the women I worked with don’t speak for the whole at a population level. Just offering another angle, anecdotally.

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@TreiZece @KemtrupTweets Interesting perspective. In some ways, society may need people who are focused “out there” more than “in here” in order to function. I’m sure there are good adaptive evolutionary reasons for this and people who have natural inclinations toward either way of being.

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4 years ago

@dremmasvanberg @KemtrupTweets Agreed. To add, there’s also the pain of the existential loneliness that comes on the other side of more self-understanding. In some ways “going deeper” helps relate differently/better to others, but it also makes us feel more like an outsider, as others aren’t “going there” too.

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4 years ago

@KemtrupTweets This is such a curious/good point.

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Deborah Lara @evolvingwithdeb

5 years ago

@yslexdia @psychgeist52 @DrCamiloOrtiz We have a unique type of cognition that differentiates us, but even this is an evolutionary adaptation. At our core we are driven and impacted by the same forces and motives, particularly relative to other social species.

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5 years ago

@yslexdia @psychgeist52 @DrCamiloOrtiz I agree. I spent some time with Orangutan families in Borneo and it made me truly see that we are much more like the rest of nature than we are different from. It completely shifted the way I saw human life and problems.

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5 years ago

@DrCamiloOrtiz @DrGipps @flowhypno Understanding adaptive functioning is critical to therapy. How we don’t see how understanding our evolutionary history and nature helps in therapy makes me question our field a bit…

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5 years ago

@psychgeist52 @DrCamiloOrtiz Evolutionary think is sorely lacking in our field in my opinion.

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5 years ago

@psychgeist52 @DrCamiloOrtiz I get this perspective, but humans have the problems they do for a lot of the same reasons other forms of life do. Understanding our evolutionary history and nature would give us much better perspective in addressing some of the problems we work with.

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5 years ago

@SlowwCo @podclipsapp 6/ This is my dorky hyperintellectual, late-night analysis of it, anyway. 🤣 🤷‍♀️ I liked that you posed it here. 🙌🙏

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5 years ago

@SlowwCo @podclipsapp 4/ If we speak more in terms of Jung and Campbell, he also represents the archetype of the father figure and spiritual guide in the hero’s journey, inducing the move from the (as Campbell and Jung have put it) “immature ego of dependence to the mature ego of inner authority.”

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5 years ago

@SlowwCo @podclipsapp 5/ As Jung put it, “the first half of life is about the development of a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” JP to me represents a figure for people for that first half, where a Watts or other Eastern thinkers represent the second.

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Deborah Lara @evolvingwithdeb

5 years ago

@nyctherapist In terms of cognitive development, Robert Kegan’s The Evolving Self as an extension into/through adulthood of Piaget’s work and research. As well, Susanne Cook-Greuter’s Ego Development Theory as an extension into/through adulthood of Jane Loevinger’s work and research.