Alex Olshonsky @oloal

I coach, lead men's groups and retreats, and teach a course that helps people wake up from overthinking → https://t.co/OgrHjl6bo3 deepfix.substack.com California Joined March 2011

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

11 hours ago

People vastly underestimate how learning and change compound. How each (!) time you catch yourself lost in thought, even if it doesn’t feel significant, that noticing builds on itself. We too often bypass our reward system. Especially when it comes to meditation or inner work. Even when we do the exact thing we’re trying to cultivate, which is to wake up from being distracted or numbing out, we turn it into another opportunity for self-attack, berating ourselves for drifting off again. Yet if you can shift from that full-blown inner critic mode to legitimately celebrating or giving yourself some credit for coming back to presence, bringing a vibe of inner friendliness, you’re meaningfully reinforcing the noticing, the thing you want to happen. We learn through positive reinforcement, and each micro-return builds on the last, until presence starts to gain a momentum of its own and you don’t have to work nearly as hard to come back to what you are.

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

2 days ago

@kishan22504 Thanks so much Kish!

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

3 weeks ago

Today we wrapped up the first cohort of Break Your Addiction to Overthinking. Feeling gratitude for such a heartful group of people, many of whom were hardcore about practicing. It was humbling to see people get a taste of how much bigger this is than overthinking, how it opens up more presence, connection, and the ability to move towards what you want in life... the good stuff. It went so well that I’ll def be running it again. Thanks to everyone who helped bring this thing to life, including those who read the essays. I’m taking a much-needed week off starting tomorrow :)

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

2 days ago

@jonnym1ller @eliotpeper But we have rain now tomorrow :(

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2 days ago

@jonnym1ller @eliotpeper Good lawdy

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2 days ago

@nopranablem @animalologist Thanks man, I actually read this essay on Substack and loved it. But need the reminder as I want to share it

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

2 days ago

@DarbyRyder Start here: deepfix.substack.com/p/the-cure-for…

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

2 days ago

There's a vast intelligence available to you that you can learn to trust as you relax the need to think your way through everything in this life

Iain MacMillan @IainMacBets

5 days ago

No exaggeration, this guy might be the best interview in pro sports right now

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

2 days ago

@PaulAustin3w That's an aspect for sure

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

3 weeks ago

All addictions are a misdirected search for God

Chris Lakin @chrislakin

4 weeks ago

You aren't addicted TO scrolling/ vaping/ overworking, you're addicted to anesthesia. This is why your attempts to curb addictions require so much willpower x.com/i/article/2102…

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

3 weeks ago

@Loster Thank you :)

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3 weeks ago

@dererererek4 Thanks sm man!

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@justnblock I used to love a sauna or steam in the mornings, but now I find it slows me down, sigh

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

I can’t stress how big a life upgrade it is to shift from immediately checking your phone upon waking to giving yourself 20, 30, 60 (!) min of spaciousness. You can be slow and cozy with your coffee, do spiritual practice, start your most important work, or do anything where you’re not playing defense or getting hosed by the winds of the algos, emails, texts. Instead of priming your consciousness with whatever madness is on your phone, you prime it with the sacred and let that set the tone for your day.

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@AuerbachBo68067 Agree it def takes some work, although I think it's far easier than learning to play an instrument, and often easier than most realize. 2-4 weeks is often sufficient

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@dererererek4 Say more

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@_Beyond_Driven It truly is

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4 weeks ago

@Montebello It's always the simple stuff

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4 weeks ago

@jonnym1ller It is wild how big of a vibe shift there is once you open the flood gates

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@jonnym1ller Same, for me, most mornings are 2-3 hours, much longer on deep work days. But I didn't want to scare people away :)

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

4 weeks ago

@RogerThisdell Oh, damn, that's so good. I love synesthetic sensorium. Is this writing live yet? Link me!

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Alex Olshonsky @oloal

a month ago

Embodiment often starts with a sense of inhabiting your body, of finally arriving in your felt experience. After a lifetime of dissociation, dwelling mostly up in the head, this is huge. Breathing starts to feel good. You can actually feel your feet rooted on the earth. But there’s a way this can become another obsession with yourself. What’s happening inside your body begins to feel more important than anything else, narrowing your experience. And when the culture around therapy and somatics treats inner awareness as the goal of embodiment, it only reinforces this. To get a sense of what’s beyond that, think about a dream. There’s a person you experience yourself as, but the bizarre characters and scenery and feelings are all made of the same consciousness. The whole dream is happening *in* you. And it’s the same in waking experience. You are not *in* your body – your body is *in you*. So a more mature embodiment is not just the sensations in the physical body, but feeling the room, the land, the energetics of people you are with, subtle vibes from beyond, feeling all of this reality. Embodiment in this deeper sense includes much more than the little me inside the skin, which is what many early spiritual traditions pointed toward. And to taste it, you might just relax and let the entirety of your experience in at once, feeling it all as part of your body. It's a very pleasant way to walk around.